As I swim up the social media stream, I find the weight of continual comparison. I respond with like, love, and laugh on most of what I read. Mary is in New York City over the weekend, Dale purchased a convertible and is joy-riding the coast, Alex moved to a much larger house, and Rita’s speaking line up is full until next Spring. And as I click away, all I can think is my corner’s looking rather bleak. And the news just keeps coming day after day. I can’t help but wonder where are my exotic vacations (though I’d rather not leave the US), my social calendar engagements (when staying in is more my thing), and my thousands of book copies sold (with a book that released less than 60 days ago)? The dark cloud of discontent overshadows me with things I may not even want or can reasonable expect. But for those of us who are the ho-hummer types, all I do feels rather mundane and irrelevant. Please understand, I believe my type lives in both the “hood” and in the upscale gated communities, because the ho-hummer cloud is not respecter of portfolios.
Would my considering to unfriend all those who dangle their glitter in my feed be the answer? If only it were that easy. Sadly, no. It has little to do with everyone on my social media. The real answer lies within me. Take a few minutes with me to ponder what you believe about yourself, your direction, your work and your year ahead. Are you being true to who you know God has created you to be? Am I? What dream is He nudging you toward that you have kept out of earshot? Are you willing to make steps to get there? Believe me when I say I am with you.
Social media is the land of comparing and commending, but we can choose not to ride that wishful stream. I have friends who have to close their accounts because the pain of seeing another’s fulfilling life keeps them paralyzed from moving forward. ” Stop looking at their outward projections and comparing yourselves to their successes.” I keep telling myself this over and over hoping it will break me free. But until I get the message, I am determined to do whatever my hand finds to do. I must do it.
Can I share with you that I have no doubt you sit in a unique seat with a defined voice in your own sphere of influence? Success is best measured not by posts of adventures and landmarks, but by honing in on your own God-ordained uniqueness. So, let’s press WOW for our friend’s recent month in Tuscany, but not let it mask the treasure born in our own hearts. Let’s stay tuned to what God is doing in and through us. Above all, to grow into all that the Lord has created you to be.
Social media has its place in getting the word out, but it remains a raging feed of comparisons. Let’s keep our feet firmly planted on the bank of reality, knowing God has created you to be something special. Only you can fulfill His call on your life. 2 Cor. 2:12, “For we dare not class ourselves or compare ourselves with those who commend themselves. But they, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise.” (NKJV)